HELP!!! there's a guy that likes me...?

there's this guy that totally likes me and he's totally sweet and nice and awesome in every way--except that i don't like him. anyway, Valentine's day is coming up and i think he might send me a carnation or something cuz at my school, you can pay to have flowers sent to a person. anyway...should i tell him that i don't like him now, or should i just wait? how should i tell him? btw, i'm not 110% sure that he likes me, so it'll be really weird if i just go and reject him and he doesn't even like me...very complicated. help!!!

HELP!!! there's a guy that likes me...?
You're obviously uncomfortable with the idea of getting a flower from someone you don't have feelings for.



I understand why this might make you uncomfortable but imagine how uncomfortable the guy would be if you just randomly walked up to him in the cafeteria, hall way, commens, etc, and said "I don't like you so don't send me a flower" (or something similar.)



He'd be 100 times more uncomfortable than you and likely embarassed, too!! (especially if he WASN'T going to send the flower!)



The adult thing to do would be to ride out the holiday. Wait and see what happens and THEN make a decision.



If you DO get a flower, how about maybe sending him a "Thank you" note. Something like "Thanks so much for the carnation- that was sweet of you to think of me on this holiday." That is VERY polite and VERY adult.



If the guy feels like asking you out, don't be rude! :) enjoy the attention without leading him on. Be clear but NOT RUDE about your intentions.



Don't rule him out entirely, either. He sounds like a nice guy and it might not be entirely bad! :-)
Reply:just go wit the flow......dont worry about it....and if he is so sweet and nice and all......maybe u shud get to know him...u never know wat it could lead to!
Reply:Give him a chance.



go on a date.



He might be the best one.
Reply:well u can wait see if he sends u ..and talk to him or u can confront ..him and casually mention.that u like someone else..or something.or u can ask him but it will be weird..so i dont know say "i know its strange but i think that u may like me..and well i just want to know b/c i dont feel the same way
Reply:mooch money off him. He can prove useful.
Reply:give him a chance like usaid he's a great guy. good luck
Reply:give him a chance
Reply:let him send you the flower (if he does ) and then after you can say to him sorry but i dont think that me and you would work out and then maybe someone else woud have sended you a flower and you can takke thatt!!! ( if you like him )
Reply:I suggest you talk to him about it now. Why wait? All you have to do is be honest. Believe me...even if you do break his heart he will appreciate your honesty and respect you for it. What's the worst that could happen? Don't be affraid just do it. You'll feel somuch better when you do, and so will he.
Reply:oh man, i am sooo in you situation too, there's this guy that is like in love with me, but i just like him as a friend, and thats it. i would tell you to tell him you dont like him like that, but i dont think i would even be able to do it. so... if you flirt (not purposfully, but as a reflex) just stop doing it. send him messages that show him your relationship is STRICTLY platonic. thats what i'm going to start doing!

good luck!
Reply:Well did you ever try talking to him more to see what he was all about inside first than out? If he is totally awesome in every way than why is it that you don't evaluate him more as a potential? Selling him short so fast!? You know a true guy should complete you more on the inside more than the outside! You see if you go out with him you can give him REAL reasons why you don't like him. Other than what you THINK! Nobody can say that they have nothing in common in less they really know them. But that's OK because I was just like you about 7 years ago! When I first met my Now wife Stacey I was thinking to myself "man doesn't she look like a train wreck!" " I am definitely going to make her cry!""Definitely can't have much in common with that!" But, the truth is that I found things out about her on the inside through count less dates and hours on the phone that I didn't have inside myself, and she started really completing me! Then after going out a couple times I started to take notice how beautiful she really was! Like the bible says:“Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet Spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.” 1 Peter 3:3-4. She would have never had a chance to be my future wife if I sold her so short like I wanted to do in my head! For future reference for not selling every guy so short Try following my 5 biblical principles for finding that true guy that will love you for who you are inside first than out! Ask Yourself:

1. Does he love you for who you are (inside first than out)? The Bible says: *“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-6

2. Does he honor you? Will he do things just to make you happy? Will he try some of the things you are interested in or maybe shares some of the same interests and hobbies? The Bible says:

* “Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves.” Romans 12:10

3. Cherishes your body, mind and soul? Doesn't go to far on these things until your ready? The Bible says: * “Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet Spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.” 1 Peter 3:3-4

4. You trust him to the fullest? He is your best friend and you are his? The Bible Says: * “ Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes always perseveres.” 1 Corinthians 13:7

5. You communicate well? He understands you like he could be your twin? The Bible says: * “ Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful, that it may benefit those who listen.” Ephesians 4:29



To Sum it up: Stick to 1. Love 2. Honor 3. Cherish 4. Trust 5. Communication and I promise if your relationship is based on these things you will know what its like to find true love! And Yes! I have used my principles myself and I am convinced I have found my soul mate! But to find her I also used these same principles to weed out my soul mate from the relationships that just didn't work. In addition, letting God and Jesus Christ lead your heart, mind, body and soul also aid in the weeding process. God Bless!
Reply:dont reject him. Just go out with him and be friends with him. Look at it from his point of view. If he does send flowers, then send some back saying "sorry, I just want to be friends" so that its rejection, but not really in a nice way.



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Reply:Go straight up to him and say "I heard a rumor that you like me." Now wait a moment for him to answer. If he says he does than tell him "Thats so sweet but I don't have similar feelings for you, sorry."
Reply:just wait it out. who knows who else will send u a flower
Reply:give the guy a chance if he likes you but if you don't you might miss out on something you might really want

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