My boyfriend doesnt eattt?

i hate it !!!!...hes been eating plain bread ...plain boiled pasta ..top ramen ..anything PLAIN since his mom can even remember ( he is 20 now) ..he will never eat anything with a sauce on it ..no meats ...nothing EVER from a restaurant ...i dont know what to do cuz its sooo unhealthy. He knows its not healthy and tries to make up for the lost nutrition with carnation breakfast drink, WHICH I HATE. ive been dealing with this for about 5 months but now he's really starting to get sick because he works so much ..he gets stomach aches easily ..and takes out all his grumpiness on me ...im so hopeless what should i do? ..ps he smokes weed like no other so i WOULD THINK that he likes to eat ...but he just really doesnt like to at all. Im really sad cuz im the type to wanna go sushi every other night ...go out for foods ...enjoy different types of flavors. what can i do?....i love him sooooo much so no useless answers telling me to leave him cuz i wont

My boyfriend doesnt eattt?
Ok.. the problem isn't the fact the man is eating wrong. The fact is.. your BF has a drug problem. You have to decide if you want to continue to enable his distructive behavior or not.



You won't leave him and yet he isn't going to make any changes in his life if he doesn't have to. Thus... your reluctance to 'force this issue' is enabling him to continue.



Here's my suggestion. Give him an ultimatum. Either he get's off the drugs and straighten his life out or he will be alone. Then you need to stick to your side of the deal. If he doesn't change then either A) he doesn't care if you leave or not or B) he doesn't respect your relationship enough to make the right choices. Either way, it will be pretty evident you life will be miserable with him.



Good luck and I hope this helps!
Reply:Slow progress is the only thing you can do. Take his pasta, and add parsely flakes; or a very simple butter sauce. Then maybe parmesan cheese; then maybe some vegetables...



Take his plain bread and add butter, then maybe a very light jam, and then replace with peanut butter ...



He has to work up to this very slowly, and he may not be able to eat meat (since his body isn't used to digesting it, he may not have the enzymes to do so and may get sick).



Then, along with that, you need a dedication from HIM that he's going to try these things, so long as you're wililng to go slowly. You may also want to have him talk to a doctor. He may not have to eat meat, but he should be getting protein from beans, and vitamins from fruits and vegetables.



Good luck!
Reply:This is how he has been for nearly all of his life. You cant just come in and change him. Just because you like certain things doesn't mean he has to, and it doesn't mean that anything is wrong with him. There is nothing wrong with plain food, some have to eat plain food because of medical conditions. This is who he is either accept it or move on. Go out with friends for dinner, but don't expect others to conform to your ideas of norm.
Reply:Try emotional blackmail. Tell him "if you love me, you will taste this (whatever it is you've ordered at the restaurant)." If you can get him to try simple foods, and isn't having some sort of psychological problem, he should discover the range of flavors out there and be intrigued enough to try a few things.



Frankly, though, you must really love this guy because he sounds like a complete nutter.
Reply:Maybe try and get him to take a good vitamin everyday that may help. But seriously that is not good have a long talk with him about this and let him know how much it bothers you and how worried you are for his health if nothing elese get him to see a doctor. good luck
Reply:Sounds like a couple of things are going on. If he is drawn to starches they turn to sugar when they are digested and you get a burst of energy and then you crash. People on these kinds of diets actually have an addiction problem. You could be dealing with that or if his mom was a very controlling person or father than he could have anerexia. Men get this too. I would sit back and lay off of him in either event because your pushing him will not change this. If he is willing to see a dr about this I would encourage that. Maybe a nutricionist and a phychologist. Lots of chemical changes occur on a high sugar diet and with the weed it only makes this worse. I had a daughter who was the same way and through counseling and a nutrionist we were able to get her to talk about things and try new foods that actually gave her more energy and made her feel great. Be patient and try not to nag. Its the worse thing you can do it actually makes it worse. Best wishes
Reply:You can either leave him or accept him the way he is. It is not your place to try to change him.
Reply:Why not fix some food for him? :] Dinner or such. Come in and time it right so he has to eat the food with the meats. I dunno its just an idea. :]] Good luck sweety.
Reply:It sounds like it's time to see a doctor. He definitely is suffering from some type of digestion system disorder.



It could just be from nerves or some thing more serious. It could stem from emotional issues or there could be something wrong like an ulcer or worse.



Doctor stat.
Reply:does he have an eating disorder, or maybe he doesn't like the sauce.